Today let's talk about meeting people in VRChat. When you spend a lot of time alone, it can be hard to find a place to meet someone new.
In that moment, knowing there is a place where you can meet people as an avatar adds one more option.
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◆ Three Stories in This Post
Each one is dated to the article it comes from.
DustBunny and Toaster
Kept their relationship going in VRChat while far apart (July 2022 coverage).
IsYourBoi and DragonHeart
Lived in different countries, held a wedding inside VRChat and plan to marry in person (July 2022 coverage).
Max and his fiancée
Met in a VRChat bar and got engaged, with the whole relationship inside VR (August 2018 coverage).
1. What Kind of Place Is VRChat?
VRChat is a free social VR platform. You become an avatar, enter virtual spaces called worlds, and meet and talk with other people.
It is closer to a place where people gather than a place where you play a game.
You don't need a VR headset. The official guidance lists Windows PC via Steam, Meta Quest, Pico, Viveport, iOS and Android, and there is also a desktop mode that lets you join from a PC with a mouse and keyboard.
Because you appear as an avatar, you can start a conversation without showing your face.
◆ The Documentary in 2022
Jan 21 Screened at the Sundance Film Festival.
Jul 22 Director Joe Hunting says in an interview that the couples in the film are together in real life.
Jul 27 Released on HBO Max.
2. The People in the Documentary
The best window into the people who met in VRChat is the documentary "We Met in Virtual Reality." It is directed by Joe Hunting, premiered at Sundance on January 21, 2022, and reached HBO Max on July 27 the same year.
It runs 91 minutes.
The film features couples who met in VRChat. DustBunny, a belly dance instructor, and Toaster, a dancer, began their relationship in VRChat.
Because of the COVID-19 lockdowns they could not visit each other, so they kept the relationship going in VRChat while far apart. VRChat is what kept them together.
Another couple is IsYourBoi and DragonHeart. They lived in different countries and started dating in VRChat, and they even held a wedding inside VRChat.
According to the same coverage, they plan to marry in real life as well.
In an interview on July 22, 2022, the director said the couples in the film are together in real life. That is a statement from July 2022, though. It has not been confirmed what happened after that.
The director said he wanted to show that you can belong to a community and express yourself in VR too.
◆ Max's Story, Step by Step (Dazed Digital, August 2018)
1. About 18 months earlier, he met his fiancée in a VRChat bar.
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2. Conversation, flirting and dating followed.
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3. They got engaged and are planning a wedding.
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4. They live on opposite coasts of the United States and plan to meet offline soon.
3. Stories Beyond the Documentary
It isn't only the people in the film. A Dazed Digital article from Augu
About 18 months earlier he met his now-fiancée there. Conversation, flirting and dating led to an engagement, and they are planning a wedding.
The two live on opposite coasts of the United States, so up to that point the relationship had stayed entirely inside VR. They planned to meet offline soon.
Max said the relationship developed just like a real-world one, and the feelings are the same. I don't know whether the two of them lasted after that.
The same article also features a user who had three VR relationships in two years, and a user who enjoys VR as a hobby with a partner in real life.
It shows that people meet in VRChat in different ways.
The article also quotes Dr. Trudy Barber, a media studies lecturer at the University of Portsmouth, who said the foundation should always be respect. Someone who hides a virtual relationship will probably hide a meeting at the pub too.
A relationship in a virtual world starts the same way as one in real life, from respect for each other.
◆ Three Ways to Meet People
1 Public worlds: talk with people you meet in rooms anyone can enter
2 Worlds where people gather: places where people hang out, like the bar where Max met his partner
3 The dating app Flirtual: matches VR users by taste and sets up meetups in VR
4. How Does Someone on Their Own Get Started?
The basic way is to talk with people you meet in public worlds, which anyone can enter. Some worlds are places where people gather, just as Max met his partner in a bar.
It is easier to start with the mindset of finding someone to talk to, not looking for a partner.
There are services that help people meet inside VR. One is Flirtual. It is a dating app that matches VR users by taste and preference. As of 2022 coverage, profiles used avatar photos instead of real pictures, and today the guidelines allow both real and avatar pictures.
Once two people match, they arrange to meet in a VR space. Isn't it amazing? A dating app that lives in a virtual world.
According to a May 2022 Road to VR article, most of the app's VR meetups were happening in VRChat. One of its founders, Kyle Farewell, met his girlfriend in VRChat, and the two ended up living together.
That is also as of 2022 coverage, so it may differ from how people use it today.
◆ Before You Join: Two Checks
Age. You must be at least 13, and ages 13 to 17 need a parent's or guardian's consent.
Region. It isn't available in Iran, Syria, Cuba, North Korea, Crimea, or the Donetsk and Luhansk regions.
5. What to Check Before You Start
First, age. You must be at least 13, and ages 13 to 17 need a parent's or guardian's consent.
Also, it isn't available in Iran, Syria, Cuba, North Korea, Crimea, or the Donetsk and Luhansk regions, so please keep that in mind.
6. To Sum Up
VRChat is a place to meet people as avatars, and for someone on their own, it can be one place to start a conversation without pressure.
Of course, what this post covered are cases from a documentary and articles, and the same thing doesn't happen to everyone. At first, start lightly with the mindset of finding someone to talk to and making friends, not romance.
And who knows, you might even meet your soulmate along the way. Hehe ♥
Well then, shall we begin today's adventure?
🌐 한국어 버전: VR게임을 했더니 연인이 생겼다? VRChat에서 인연을 만든 사람들
